Sunday, July 24, 2022

15 Anal Sex Positions To Try, From Beginner To Advanced

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Good news: Anal sex is becoming less and less taboo. And by that, I mean GREAT news, because women can actually enjoy butt play just as much as men do. Seriously. "I've come across plenty of women who love anal play," says Gigi Engle, sex coach and sexologist (she's legit a sexpert for the Womanizer sex toy brand). Anal sex provides a different kind of fullness and can be really, truly intimate (especially if it's a first for both of you). Another major perk? Some women even experience full-on anal orgasms. With the right positions and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them.

But if it's your first time, there’s a few things you want to keep in mind. “Go slow and go small,” says Joanna Encarnacion, a sex and relationship coach. Play around with fingers first working your way up from small to big. Start with the rim of the butthole before going all the way in with a penis, strap-on, or dildo. Remember: Lube is your absolute best friend (do NOT pass go without it) and never switch from butt to vag (because bacteria, people!).

But most importantly, don't forget to check in with yourself and your body during penetration. "There’s no shame in taking it back out and coming out of the whole situation until you’re a little bit more comfortable,” Encarnacion says.

Okay, now that that's all been covered, here are the best 15 anal sex positions to try when you're ready.

1 Lap Dance
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Emily Schiff-Slater

This position is perfect for people who are relatively new to anal sex because it's easy to pull off (but still hot). "Use hand play first to ease into it and see how this position works for your before slipping in the penis," Encarnacion says. Once you decide it's a go, you can control how far down you sit onto your partner, which means you can go as deep or as shallow as you like. If you're looking to spice up the position, reach your hands around the back and grab your partner for more contact. You can also simultaneously play with your own clitoris or their balls for added stimulation. "Don't be afraid to get handsy with this one," Encarnacion says.

Do It: Have your partner sit on the edge of a bed or a chair. With your back to them, slide down on top of them.

2 Lying Doggy
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EMILY SCHIFF-SLATER

The Lying Doggy is perfect for shallow penetration—which you should definitely try if you haven't already. Most of the nerves in the anus are in the first two inches of the opening, so this is a great way to get that stimulation even if you're an anal sex beginner. Pro tip: Play around with teasing in this position. "It's great for beginners because you don't have to commit to the whole thing (literally!)," Encarnacion says. But you still get allll the stimulation. If you want more though, add a vibrator to the mix and use it on your clitoris while lying down, she suggests.

Do It: Lie on your stomach, and have your partner lie directly on top of you, entering from behind. Have them balance on their elbows for optimal comfort.

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3 Backdoor Missionary
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EMILY SCHIFF-SLATER

Anal sex positions are often a face-away-from-each-other kind of deal, but this one allows you and your partner to get some eye-contact in during sex. That adds to the whole intimacy thing. You can also kick things up a notch and calm your nerves with a little nipple sensation from your partner. "This will add a different sensory experience and take away some of the pressure on your mind around the anal play that's occurring," Encarnacion says.

Do It: Have your partner enter you from the missionary position. Keep your knees pressed against his side to control how deep they go, putting your hands on their chest for extra resistance. You can also add a pillow underneath your hips, to get the pelvis in the perfect place for penetration.

4 The Caboose
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EMILY SCHIFF-SLATER

Don't you love that this position is called the Caboose? While it's a must-try for regular penetration, it's a really sweet one for anal. "Have them grab their hands on your ass and slowly lower you down," Encarnacion recommends. This will start the intimacy off on a high note. And once you're in the position, you'll be attached from the torso to your legs and can kiss each other to up the romance even more.

Do It: While he sits on the bed or a chair, back yourself into his lap and spoon each other while seated.

5 Back It Up
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Emily Schiff-Slater

If you’re interested in standing anal sex positions, this is a great choice. It's ideal for shallow penetration, giving your nerve-rich anal opening plenty of attention. Encarnacion recommends playing around with a sex wedge or pillow to switch up the depth or direction of penetration.

Do It: Have your partner kneel against the bed and you lie across the edge, leaning on one side with your back (and obviously butt) facing them. Lean back into his penis. Swivel your hips to control the speed and motion.

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6 Spoon
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Emily Schiff Slater

Oh, spooning—the lazy girl's move for vaginal, and now anal, sex. This position is great when you don't want to make eye contact (sometimes, especially when your partner is up your backdoor, you don't want to) or feel like busting out crazy moves. Plus, skin on skin is hot. And if you're worried about the position feeling too simple or mundane, add some build up. "Rub your partner's penis against your clit, pulling it downwards before it goes in," Encarnacion suggests. You'll get both clitoral stimulation and create more of a tease before diving into full anal.

Do It: Both of you lie on your sides, facing the same direction. You bring your knees up slightly while your partner slides up behind your pelvis and enters you from behind.

7 Leaning Cowgirl
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EMILY SCHIFF-SLATER

Anal sex in the cowgirl position is especially hot because it gives the person on top all of the control. It's also super easy for you and your partner to reach around and finger your vagina or rub your clitoris. And remember—there's more than just up and down movement. Rock back and forth too to provide yourself with another stimulation option, Encarnacion says.

Do It: Have you partner lie down faceup, then straddle them. Slowly slide yourself down at your own pace. Lean forward, placing both hands on your partner's chest or shoulders.

8 Backsided Lotus
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Emily Schiff-Slater

Regular Lotus is touted as one of the most intimate and romantic positions there is. Make it the anal version, and you take that intimacy up a notch (okay, several). Here, you're as close to your partner as possible, and you get some eye-contact time that can be oh-so-hot. "Making out during this one is a really great way to seal up that intimacy," Encarnacion says. One other note: He'll likely feel pretty deep, so go slow.

Do It: Have your partner sit on the bed or couch. Climb on top of their lap. Slide down so you’re face-to-face.

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9 Reverse Cowgirl
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Emily Schiff-Slater

Reverse cowgirl may not be your favorite for regular P-in-the-V action (though your partner probably LOVES it), but in the anal sex world, the position is clutch. You get to control his depth and thrusting pattern with relative ease. Encarnacion recommends incorporating ball or clitoral play to the mix for an added layer of stimulation. And of course, your butt is right there, so having your partner pull your cheeks apart or push them together can feel also feel very satisfying.

Do It: Have your partner lie on their back. Straddle them backward and slide down at your leisure. Have your partner stimulate your clit, while you offer them an ultra-sexy view of your backside.

10 Spork
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Emily Schiff-Slater

The Spork is really, really hot for any kind of sex—there's the intimate eye contact, the intertwined legs, and the slightly twisted angle of penetration. Try it as an anal sex position and it might become your favorite. And don't forget about kissing during this one. "Typically in anal sex positions, you don't always have access to the face. So take advantage of that," Encarnacion says.

Do It: While you lie on your back, raise your right leg so they can position themselves between your legs at a 90-degree angle and enter your anus.

11 Tilted Doggy
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Emily Schiff-Slater

Doggy style is the classic anal sex position for a reason: It's perfect for deep penetration, and you can arch your back for even deeper thrusts, which can help target that infamous A-spot. Try rocking your hips back and forth to add some variety to the position. "It will change some of the internal sensations," Encarnacion says. But the major perk? It can also more quickly stimulate an orgasm for some women.

Do It: Get on all fours, and have your partner enter you from behind. From here, your partner can (and should) easily stroke your nipples or clitoris, too.

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12 Standing Doggy
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Emily Schiff-Slater

The only thing that makes anal even hotter? Turning the kink up, by having you bend forward and your partner restrain your wrists (even if it's just with his hands). It's a gentle foray into BDSM. And remember to get handsy with this one too. If you can, grab your partner by their butt and have them grab your hips for an even deeper penetrative thrust, Encarnacion says.

Do It: With both of you standing, bend over at the waist. Have them enter you from behind as they grip your wrists and hold them by your sides.

13 Full Throttle
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Emily Schiff-Slater

Calling all anal veterans! If you’re a gal who loves deep penetration, this (appropriately named) position is a must-try. Not only does the angle give them full entry, you're also in the perfect setup for a finger or two (or a toy) inside your vagina. The result? Total fullness. If it's your first time trying this position though, remember to ease into the sensation, Encarnacion says. And if you're worried about your legs flailing around, hold them with your hands if you can to provide yourself more control.

Do It: Lying on your back, bring your legs up to your shoulders. Have your parnter enter you from above, using his hands to balance above you.

14 The Snake
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EMILY SCHIFF-SLATER

If you’re someone who regularly engages in anal sex, you'll really love this position. Raising your hips makes them feel deeper and allows you to reach under you to stimulate your clit with a toy. There's also something really hot about the submissiveness that comes with having half your body (consensually!) pushed into the bed. And there's no reason why you shouldn't play into that. "Have your partner reach around and grab your boobs or pull your hair," Encarnacion says. "This position gives you a chance to really play up the kink."


Do It: While on your knees, lean forward and place your chest on the bed. Have your partner enter you from behind. For deeper penetration, have your partner lean back and hold your hips to pull you in.

15 Pile Driver
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Emily Schiff-Slater

This might be one of the most advanced (and extreme, I must say) anal sex positions out there. For one, you need to be able to take all of him inside, since he's more or less sitting on top of your rear. Two, you can't move around much, so you have to be able to withstand all the action, at least for a bit. And three, look at that flexibility! Pro tip: Do some hip openers or pigeon poses to open up the hips before trying this one out, Encarnacion recommends. It will help release tension and loosen your body up. This way all you have to worry about is feeling good.

Do It: Lie on your back and bring your legs up over your head. The more flexible you are the better. Try to get your butt as high in the air as possible. Have your partner lower themselves onto you. He should have great access to lean down and stimulate your clitoris.

Thursday, July 21, 2022

Why I’m Leaving the University

Joseph H. Manson

Social scientist. Refugee from mainstream higher education.

I’m a professor, retiring at 62 because the Woke takeover of higher education has ruined academic life. “Another one?” you ask. “What does this guy have to say that hasn’t already been said by Jordan Peterson, Peter Boghossian, Joshua Katz, or Bo Winegard1?

There’s only one way to find out.

Defenestration of a Colleague

I’ve been a tenure-track professor since 1996 (tenured since 2000) in the Anthropology Department at UCLA. (My research, which I plan to continue doing, has spanned topics ranging from nonhuman primate behavior to human personality variation). For decades, anthropology has notoriously been riven by conflict between scientific and political activist factions, leading many departments to split in two, but UCLA’s department remained unusually peaceful, cohesive, and intellectually inclusive until the late 2000s. Gradually, one hire at a time, practitioners of “critical” (i.e. far-left postmodernist) anthropology, some of them lying about their beliefs during job interviews, came to comprise the department’s most influential clique.  These militant faculty recruited even more extremely militant graduate students to work with them.

I can’t recount here even a representative sample of this faction’s penchant for mendacity and intimidation, because most of it occurred during confidential discussions, usually about hiring and promotion decisions. But I can describe their public torment and humiliation of one of my colleagues, P. Jeffrey Brantingham. Jeff had developed simulation models of the geographic and temporal patterning of urban crime, and had created predictive software that he marketed to law enforcement agencies. In Spring 2018, the department’s Anthropology Graduate Students Association passed a resolution accusing Jeff’s research of (among other counter-revolutionary sins) “entrench[ing] and naturaliz[ing] the criminalization of Blackness in the United States” and calling for “referring” his research to UCLA’s Vice Chancellor for Research, presumably for some sort of investigation. This document contains no trace of scholarly argument, but instead resembles a religious proclamation of anathema. As you won’t be surprised to hear, Jeff is not a racist, but a standard-issue liberal Democrat. The “referral” to the Vice-Chancellor never materialized, but the AGSA resolution and its aftermath achieved its real goal, which was to turn Jeff, who had been one of the most selfless citizens of the department, into a pariah. He taught (still teaches) a course, “The Ecology of Crime,” that consistently drew 150+ students and earned rave reviews. This course had a catalogue number that grouped it with sociocultural anthropology, and it fulfilled a sociocultural anthropology requirement for anthro majors. In an act of petty spite, ritual moral purification, or both (take your pick), the Woke faculty clique, which comprised a majority of the sociocultural anthro faculty, banned him from using (polluting?) any of their course numbers. Jeff continued to offer the course, just under a different kind of number.

But his tormentors weren’t finished with him, even though Jeff stopped attending faculty meetings, and in every other way accepted his punishment of permanent ostracism. In early March 2020, this flyer appeared in the hallways of the anthropology department. “Predpol” is the name of Jeff’s predictive software. The sponsoring “Institute for Inequality and Democracy” is a far-left UCLA unit whose associate director is Hannah Appel, who also holds a faculty position in anthropology. That is, a professor tried to organize a mob to demand the professional destruction of a colleague. Within a few days after the appearance of these flyers, the pandemic lockdown confined us to our homes and overshadowed everything else, and the anti-police movement soon had bigger fish to fry after the killing of George Floyd. Nevertheless, Jeff remained a popular and powerful hate-figure for the department’s Woke faction. On September 23, 2020, during a webinar, “The Case for Letting Anthropology Burn?” sponsored in part by the UCLA anthropology department, many of the chat comments from graduate students reviled him and called for further action against him. The entire episode recalls a prescient observation in a 1995 article by the great psychological anthropologist Roy D’Andrade: “Isn’t it odd that the true enemy of society turns out to be that guy in the office down the hall?”

The Other Signs and Portents

Not only was Jeff ostracized, he was unpersoned. None of the faculty talked about him, if they could possibly avoid it. Meanwhile, our department chair opened most faculty meetings by solemnly intoning that our department was a community, a family, and that “we’re here for each other.” In private conversations, I was able to elicit from some of my colleagues an embarrassed acknowledgment that the Woke faction had treated Jeff abominably, and that we strongly resembled a dysfunctional family in denial. This pervasive institutional doublethink was partly a result of Jeff’s own apparent decision to refrain from open confrontation: I offered to help him, by defending him publicly if he wished, after both the 2018 AGSA resolution and the 2020 flyer posts, and he thanked me but politely asked me to stay out of it. But the principal driver of the doublethink was fear of the Woke faction.

Signs of this fear are omnipresent. Discussing whether to stop requiring the GRE (a standardized test, like the SAT) from applicants to our Ph.D. program, one colleague told a meeting of the biological anthropology subfield that he regarded the GRE as the most informative part of an applicant’s dossier, but that we had no choice but to vote to stop requiring it, because otherwise we would be regarded as racists (I was the only person to vote against dropping the GRE requirement). Asking a question following a public talk, a colleague conspicuously used the word “Latinx” even though the speaker had described both herself and her research subjects as “Latinas” and even though he himself, in a previous private conversation, had mockingly referred to the opinion polls showing that only a small minority of Hispanic Americans prefer to be called “Latinx.”

Outside the anthropology department, UCLA as a whole is showing all the signs of Woke capture that typify the contemporary U.S. university. Emeritus Professor Val Rust (Graduate School of Education) was banned from campus, and researcher James Enstrom (Environmental Health Sciences) and lecturer Keith Fink (Communication Studies) were fired, all for dissenting (in different ways) from Woke orthodoxy. Gordon Klein, after being fired by UCLA’s business school in Spring 2020 for refusing to use race-based grading criteria, mobilized mass support and legal assistance, was reinstated, and is now suing the university. Statements recounting one’s activities on behalf of Equity, Diversity and Inclusion are mandatory in faculty job applications and in promotion dossiers. Among its “Gender Recognition” policy recommendations, a university task force is calling for “curricular updates…For example: inclusion of non-binary and intersex identities in biology courses for health care practitioners.” Is this a threat to pressure course instructors in the life sciences and social sciences to deny the human sex binary? The experience of former Penn State evolutionary biology postdoc, now Substack writer, Colin Wright (although unconnected with UCLA), suggests that it might be. For arguing against assertions that “biological sex is a continuous spectrum [and] that notions of male and female may be mere social constructs,” Wright’s academic career was derailed by an online mob.

Also typical of elite U.S. universities, UCLA is awash in anti-Zionism, a.k.a. thinly disguised Jew-hatred. In May 2019, one of my colleagues, Kyeyoung Park, invited a guest lecturer, San Francisco State University professor Rabab Abdulhadi, to her class to proclaim that Zionism is a form of white supremacism. A considerable brouhaha ensued. Unlike Rust, Enstrom, Fink, Klein, or Brantingham, Park was celebrated by the faculty and administration as a courageous, embattled exponent of academic freedom. The Anthropology Graduate Students Association chimed in with a resolution agreeing with Abdulhadi. More recently, the Asian-American Studies Department posted to its website a statement accusing Israel of settler colonialism, racial apartheid, etc. Irrespective of the content, doesn’t it infringe on the academic freedom of individual professors (and postdocs and graduate students, whose careers are dependent on faculty recommendations) for an academic department to take a political stand on behalf of all its members? Several other Jewish faculty and I have made that case to the UCLA and overall University of California leadership, to no avail.

As Doris Day sang, the future’s not ours to see, but it’s a good bet that the grip of Woke orthodoxy on the University of California, and most other U.S. universities, will tighten in the years to come. The younger faculty tend to be more Woke than their elders. Administrators and student “protesters” perform elaborately choreographed routines that end with the former enacting policies that they wanted to enact anyway, for which the latter’s public temper tantrums serve as a pretext. Now that standardized tests have been dropped from undergraduate application requirements, a growing number of students will be simultaneously (1) unable to handle university level coursework, and (2) predisposed to denounce their professors for heresy, having been chosen for admission on the basis on their far-left activism as high school students. Meanwhile, California’s K-12 schools are increasingly substituting mind-damaging political indoctrination for education.

But Why Not Stick Around for the Paycheck?

One of my more cynical friends, a tenured professor at a different university, suggested this. He’s no longer on speaking terms with his colleagues, refuses all requests to serve on committees, and spends as much time as possible out of the country. He thinks I’m out of my mind, swapping a salary for a pension.

Maybe he’s right. And maybe I’m craven for ducking the unpleasantness that would be entailed by going that route, or by remaining at my job and becoming a chronic troublemaker. But I strongly suspect that mainstream U.S. higher education is morally and intellectually corrupt, beyond the possibility of self-repair, and therefore no longer a worthwhile setting in which to spend my time and effort. The rise of alternative institutions, like the University of Austin and Ralston College, is a hopeful sign, but so far it’s been happening painfully slowly.

A 2019 article by Liel Leibovitz, titled “Get Out,” argued that the increasingly open hostility of American universities toward Jews is inseparable from the universities’ increasingly brazen rejection of two values that, during the 20th Century, made them into places where Jews specifically, and curious, ambitious, and open-minded people generally, could thrive: meritocracy and free debate. In 2019, I thought that Leibovitz was exaggerating and rather overwrought. Everything that’s happened since has shown that he was right. That’s it: I’m getting out.

What’s next? For one thing, with the time that used to be taken up by teaching and university service, I’ll write blog posts. Stay tuned.

1. Note: Peterson and Boghossian resigned. Katz and Winegard were fired.

Monday, June 13, 2022

THE EVER ELUSIVE, ALWAYS INSCRUTABLE AND STILL INCOMPARABLE BOBBY ORR AT 60 HE'S BEEN A PLAYER AGENT FOR LONGER THAN HE RULED THE ICE. HE IS FIERCELY PRIVATE AND DEEPLY LOYAL, AND THE FORCE OF ORR'S SINGULAR PRESENCE HAS NOT WANED

 OF COURSE the parents try to stay cool. But when the phone rings and that voice says,"This is Bobby Orr,..." some can't help themselves. "No!"they'll say, or giggle and talk too loud: Just the idea of telling the cousins,the folks at work, You won't believe who called last night, is enough to get the nerves jangling.

Still, this is their boy's future at stake, so they usually recover and manage a few hard questions, and then the conversation will start sailing along and, Why, he's just so easy to talk to, so down-to-earth, like everyone said, and soon it's just two people gabbing, no starry-eyed stuff until the voice says something about coming by to talk a bit more. Then it sinks in: Come by? Him? And, still listening, now there's this quick scan of that family room in Thunder Bay or Hull or whatever Canadian town happens to have produced the next raw piece of hockey talent, a desperate glance at the stains on the coffee table, the drapes that long ago needed replacing.... Here?

"It's unbelievable," says Barbara Tavares, mother of top Canadian junior John Tavares. "Your legs are like jelly."

 

 

Bobby Orr—for many the greatest hockey player ever, the defenseman who altered the essence of the game—has been making his living as an agent for 13 years now, and he's become, as celluloid agent Jerry Maguire put it, good in the living room. Heand partners Paul Krepelka and Rick Curran incorporated his Orr Hockey Group in2002 and have built a clientele of 33 active NHL players (fourth most of any agency) that includes Ottawa center Jason Spezza, Carolina's Eric Staal and CamWard, and Philadelphia forward Jeff Carter, who last June signed a three-year,$15 million extension. Neither lawyer nor marketing expert, Orr leaves negotiations to his partners, serving as all-around adviser, player counselor,exemplar and conversation stopper. "We were talking to different agents,but once I met him, my decision was pretty much made," Spezza says.

Who, after all,could better understand the pressure of becoming a national darling at 14, the psychic toll exacted by injuries, the threat of business "advisers"ever ready to sink their teeth into an athlete's balance sheet? Who better to remind overpaid kids of their responsibilities to their talent, teammates and public?

Indeed,"Bobby Orr: Agent" might make perfect sense, except there's simply no even less precedent for a generational icon to enter this long-derided trade and even less reason to think the fiercely reticent Orr would be the first. Even now,it's no secret that he regards player representation as a generally dirty business; in 1996, when Orr began working as an agent, the irony was lost on neither friend nor foe.

"I found it hard to believe," Alan Eagleson says.

Yet here Orr is,despite—or perhaps, because of—the fact that Eagleson, the fallen power broker whose hockey empire grew out of his role as Orr's agent, left him all but broke as part of one of sports' most spectacular financial scandals. Here Orr is,knees and fortune rebuilt, 60 years old and rounding a corner in 2009. He has now been an agent for longer than his run as an NHL star and with his clientele growing and his firm embroiled in a big-time fee dispute with Islanders goalieRick DiPietro, Orr is playing hardball. And on his terms: All agents alternate between vocal advocate and secret-keeping consigliere, but Orr has taken the public-private shuffle to new extremes, keeping his face before the Canadian public in TV ads that highlight his self-deprecating humor and that eternally boyish Bobby-ness, while keeping any thoughts on the league, his business and his life under tight wraps.

Orr hasn't given a substantial interview in nearly two decades and doesn't need to. Thirty years after the Boston Bruins retired his number 4, the hockey world is still dazzled by the magic of his name: Parents will always take his call, team execs and coaches who played against or idolized him will always agree to meet. And once inside Orr works to defuse any hero worship. He'll giggle and tell jokes at his own expense, recall how it was for him to be young and homesick and crying, how it felt rising so fast. He'll steer the conversation to what he can do for your boy. Sometimes, though, the family will want a little more. And when, in the case of a prospect like Spezza, whose Canadian junior career nearly matched Orr's for bated-breath mania, a cocky little brother pipes up at the dinner table, "I bet you can't score on me!" well, sure, Orr will take that bet: 10 shots, score fewer than five and the kid wins.

So it was that,in the fall of 1998, 11-year-old Matt Spezza found himself scrambling down to the basement in his Mississauga, Ont., home to strap on goalie pads, gloves and mask. Finally Orr pushed away from the table, hobbled downstairs in his golf shirt and slacks, and picked up one of Jason's sticks. He flipped the first two shots up, easy to block, but Matt was cocky and started taunting the man who scored 296 goals, the player known in practice to gather a puck off the ice as if with a spoon and with back to the goal swat it on a line into the top corner of the net. "Is that it?" Matt said. "Come on, let 'em go."

It happened fast:Boom, boom, boom. One low, right under the glove, then another and another;everybody laughing, but the room getting warm. "You could see it," Matt says. "He could put it wherever he wanted." Then as quick as it came,the moment passed. Orr eased up, let the kid knock away the last pucks and win by one, done with remembering what Bobby Orr could do.

HE RAN A tight room," former Bruins center Derek Sanderson likes saying about the man who helped saved his life, but that doesn't do the matter near enough justice—not with Orr's first Boston coach, Harry Sinden, calling him the Godfather and his last, Don Cherry, relating how teammates shortened it over the decade that Orr played a kind of hockey no one had ever seen. "God here yet?" the otherBruins would say, or "Where was God last night?" But not to Orr's face.Not once.

God came toBoston in 1966, 18 years old, and within two seasons the once-pathetic Bruins had been transformed into a spectacular, mean, winning bunch. Some of that was due to the '67 trade that brought in scoring machine Phil Esposito and forwardsKen Hodge and Fred Stanfield, but it was Orr, the working-class product ofParry Sound, Ont., who set the tone. His on-ice artistry—coupled with a willingness to hurl that 6-foot frame in front of any slap shot, into any opponent—endowed him with ultimate authority. He barely had to say a word.

Game days, Orr would arrive at 2:30 for a 7:30 start, play cards, bang around the emptiness,sort through the 144 sticks sent him every few weeks—weighing them, selecting two, maybe three, discarding the rest—getting himself ready. His teammates would file in at five or six o'clock. He'd wander about then with one stick weighted with lead or with pucks taped to the blade, shifting it from hand to hand. Locker room music rarely played. "I have never run into any player who brings the intensity that he brought," says Sinden, who spent 45 years as a coach or front office executive. "His silence, his looks, were enough to tell you if he didn't like what was happening. And he made the rest of us the same way. You could not be around him without feeling that and getting inline."

If you had a bad period? Or dogged it? Sanderson's locker was by a pillar, and he'd set his chair so the pillar would block Orr's view from across the room. "Is he looking?" Esposito would whisper. Always, Orr would be staring lasers.Sanderson only felt worse when Orr would wait until he was alone, come over and mutter, "You got to pick it up. We need you."

"God here yet?" the other Bruins would ask about Orr, or "WHERE WAS GOD LAST NIGHT?" But not to Orr's face, not once.

Then Orr would hit the ice again, and it was wondrous to see—for the fans, yes, but even opponents found themselves entranced. When Bobby Clarke was a rookie center for the Philadelphia Flyers—the team that later raised the ante on Boston's bruising ways—he found himself all but cheering Orr's speed and control; he couldn't help himself. It wasn't just the end-to-end rushes, Orr's thick legs pushing him to a gear few could match, to scoring levels unheard of for a defenseman. It was his style. There was just one strip of black tape on Orr's stick and the puck seemed glued to it, that fine detail so compelling thatBoston strippers took to sporting the equivalent of today's French bikini wax—a thin strip of pubic homage dubbed "a Bobby Orr."

During one penalty kill against the old Seals in Oakland, Orr swooped behind goal in possession, tussled with an opponent and lost a glove. "He went around by the blue line, came back, picked up his glove—still had the puck," Esposito says. "[Goalie] Gerry Cheevers was on the bench, and I'm standing there andI hear Cheesy say to me, 'Espo, you want The Racing Form?' I said, 'Might as well; I'm not touching the puck!' Bobby killed about a minute and 10, 20seconds of that penalty—and then ...," with even the Oakland players cheering now, "... he scored. Greatest thing I ever saw."

In 1969--70 Orr became the only player to sweep the league's top awards—MVP, defenseman,playoff MVP and scoring title—and capped it off by scoring the StanleyCup--winning goal over St. Louis in overtime. The following season, the Bruins scored 124 more even-strength or shorthanded goals than they gave up when Orr was on the ice, and that remains his most lasting monument; the man most mentioned as Orr's rival for the title of greatest ever, Wayne Gretzky, never cracked +100.

Yet Orr bristled at the attentions of superstardom, would tell coaches to find reasons to bawl him out like the rest. His last good season, 1974--75, he scored 46 goals but probably gave away a half dozen more by insisting that teammates had deflected the puck in. It's no accident that his signature play—and the one that won the first of his two Stanley Cups, against the Blues—was a give-and-go. Orr's best rushes were never look-at-me affairs but a storm he brewed on one end of the ice, gathering in his fellow Bruins for the inexorable sweep forward. When he began to move, says former Montreal goalie Ken Dryden, the sensation was unique: All the Canadiens began backpedaling in a small panic, like beachgoers sighting a coming monster wave.

"He brought others with him; he wanted them involved," says Dryden. "That's what made him so different: It felt like a five-player stampede moving toward you—and at his pace. He pushed his teammates, [because] you're playing with the best player in the league and he's giving you the puck and you just can't mess it up. You had to be better than you'd ever been."

LORD, DO they remember. For hard men of a certain age, and for Canadians, especially, the mere mention of Orr can undam a rush of feeling. "Guys make fun of me because I'm always talking about him," says Cherry, whose second life as a hockey broadcaster gives him plenty of opportunity. "My son made [an Orr highlight] tape to Carly Simon—Nobody Does It Better—and I cry every time I see it. I don't know why."

It's no mystery.Orr did it all: blocked shots, dealt out punishing blows, endured the swooping hits of players desperate to stop him, somehow. When it came time to defend a teammate or himself, he fought. Gladly. "Too much," Esposito says."He didn't have to, but he had a temper."

The fact is,despite his schoolboy haircut and shy grin, Orr was a killer on the ice. He laid out the Blackhawks' Stan Mikita with a perfect forearm cheap shot,hammered the hell out of Mikita's teammate Keith Magnuson at every opportunity,waited a year to get his revenge on Toronto's Pat Quinn—Orr jumped him in a brawl—after Quinn knocked him unconscious with a riot-sparking hit in the '69playoffs.

"Pound for pound, he might've been the toughest guy in the game," Quinn says. "He wasn't a hold-and-throw like a lot of guys. He could go with both his hands,like a prizefighter."

A game-changing talent, a taste for blood: Those were enough to make Orr a hockey hero for life. But vulnerability is what makes him resonate still. A recent TV ad shows Orr sitting silently while a lengthening scar on his famous left knee serves asa time line of victory, and loss; he played, really, only eight full seasons,and operations on both knees left him a near cripple at 30. Ever since,commentators have made him the equivalent of Jim Brown, Sandy Koufax, even JohnF. Kennedy, shooting stars who left the world wondering what might have been.His last hurrah, the 1976 Canada Cup series, provided the perfect, bittersweet coda: Orr in so much pain that he couldn't practice, beating the Russians on one leg, outplaying the Czechs single-handedly, "the most courageous thatI've ever seen a hockey player," says Clarke, the captain. Hockey nation didn't disagree.

"He isCanada," says Barb Tavares, whose son nevertheless ended up signing with another agent. But if Orr is how a certain segment of Canadians want to see themselves—self-effacing, self-sacrificing, quietly great—there's a glint of recognition too, in what lies beneath the forced politeness, the goofy charm.In any conversation there's a tension that never leaves Orr, the feeling that his spring-loaded temper might snap and turn the warmest banter to ice. When first contacted by SPORTS ILLUSTRATED, Orr couldn't have been more welcoming,shuffling through his calendar for interview dates; in a second phone conversation he declared that he didn't want, as he has told many journalists,"a story about the agent business." He never returned another call.

Cherry has felt more than one freeze-out as Orr's coach in the 1970s and even after the two battled as celebrity coaches in the annual Top Prospects Game a few years ago.That time Orr didn't speak to him for six months. "Great heart, but he hates pretty good," Cherry says, and when asked how Orr was to coach, he pauses.

"I got to be careful here," he says finally. "You had to handle him right. You had to know when to talk to him; he was not an easy guy. He could spot a phony a mile away. There were so many people after him all the time that he became suspicious; he was never really friendly with a lot of people. When I first went there, I made the mistake: He was eating alone, and I made conversation.How was the fishing this year? And he picked up right away that I was just making conversation, and he didn't like that. He didn't like any bull----, and you know what? He's exactly like that today. He's pretty unforgiving. If you cross him, you will never get the chance to cross him again."

Eagleson crossed him the worst, of course, exposing a weakness as damaging as any knee injury. Once the cocky and high-flying master of the hockey universe, an irresistible force who rode Orr's celebrity into a multi hatted—and conflict-ridden—position as executive director of the NHL Players' Association, hockey's most powerful agent and chairman of Hockey Canada's international committee, Eagleson would be accused of pilfering money from player pension funds and disability payments, and in 1998 he pleaded guilty to multiple counts of fraud, including those involving the theft of hundreds of thousands of dollars in Canada Cup proceeds. He served six months in a Toronto jail, was disbarred, got kicked out of the Canadian sports hall of fame.

Eagleson's bargaining tactics had made Orr the NHL's highest-paid player as a rookie, and Orr expected to be a millionaire when he retired in 1978: Eagleson had promised him, after all. But in '90 Orr told a Canadian newspaper in detail how, in blindly following Eagleson's tangled financial advice, he had ended up with just $450,000 in assets—and tax bills that wiped him out. He had his homes inBoston, Cape Cod and Florida and a name to sell, but a wife, Peggy, and two sons, Darren and Brent, to support. And the money was gone.

For press and public, Eagleson's crime against Orr was best summed up by the pair's final contract negotiation with the Bruins in 1976. Boston offered a multiyear deal that included an 18.5% ownership stake in the team, worth an estimated $49million today. Though Eagleson made that offer public, Orr insisted that he didn't know about it until years later and, more to the point, believedEagleson when he said there was a better deal to be gotten with the Chicago Blackhawks—owned, it just so happened, by Eagleson's close friend Bill Wirtz.Such obliviousness seems incredible, but then Orr had known Eagleson for 15years. "He had total control," Orr said in '90. "He said we were brothers. And I trusted him like a brother."

For his part,Eagleson won't talk about specifics and says, "I wouldn't do anything differently. That's how I was and that's how it is, and in the long haul of life the truth will eventually out."

What's not in dispute is the depth of Orr's trust. Esposito didn't like Eagleson, but Orr wouldn't hear a harsh word against him, and the tension between the teammates became palpable anytime his name came up. One day in the spring of '76, with negotiations at an impasse—Orr would eventually sign a five-year contract with the Blackhawks, but injuries limited him to just 26 games in two seasons—Cherry was alone at one end of the Boston Garden dressing room, fixing a stick for his son, when he noticed Bruins president Paul Mooney walk in and approach Orr as he sat pedaling on an exercise bike.

"Bobby, can I speak to you a minute?" Mooney said, puffing on a pipe.

"F--- off,Paul," Orr replied. "You're trying to drive a wedge between Al andI."

"Just let me talk to you for 30 seconds."

"F--- off.Don't talk to me."

Mooney shook his head and walked out.

"They were going to offer Bobby all that money, 18 percent," Cherry says. "Nope:'F--- off.' That's how loyal he was to Eagleson. You couldn't convince him.Once he made up his mind? Forget it."

RICK CURRAN first heard the question six years ago, after he became Bobby Orr's business partner.Does Bobby participate? He's got the name, and you guys do all the work, right?Come on, Rick: Is he involved?

"You don't understand. This guy gets up 5:30, 6 o'clock every morning," Curran says."By the time I talk to him—and we talk every day between 7 and 7:30—I can tell by the sound of his voice whether our clients had a good or bad night the night before. He knows how everybody did; if someone's minutes are down, we know he's either injured or hasn't done what he should've been doing. And by the end of the conversation we have a list of seven or eight items for that day that we're going to address. Involved? He still lives and breathes it."

Endorsement contracts and public relations work had lifted Orr out of the financial ashes left by Eagleson, and in 1996 Orr bought into the Boston agency created by Bob Woolf. Now agenting gave him a chance to attack business as relentlessly as he did the game. "Dozens of calls every day—to players, to scouts, to skill coaches: How's our guy doing?" says Jay Fee, who worked at the agency before going out on his own in 2002.

Orr also drew a clear line: His agency would not handle—as Eagleson had—player finances."Being victimized by a bad agent, I think Bobby wanted to run a business that would never do that to anybody," Fee says.

Still, Orr leaves much of the on-the-ground detail to his partners. The Flyers' JeffCarter—handled primarily by the Philadelphia-based Curran—emerged as a breakout star for the firm this season, and he has scarcely any relationship with Orr.Meanwhile, Orr's Boston-based partner, Paul Krepelka, is the agent of record inDiPietro's case; he represented the Islanders goalie up to and including the moment DiPietro signed a record 15-year, $67.5 million contract in 2006. The relationship frayed soon after and DiPietro fired the firm, refusing to pay its percentage because he had never signed a standard player agent contract. Last summer, Orr filed a grievance with the NHL Players' Association, butDiPietro—who declined to speak to SI—says he owes nothing. Krepelka agrees thatDiPietro didn't sign a contract with the Orr Group, but says he negotiated the pact and should be paid. The grievance is expected to be heard this spring and"could segue into a lawsuit," Krepelka says.

His talent, his taste for blood, were enough to make Orr a hockey hero for life. But VULNERABILITY IS WHAT MAKES HIM RESONATESTILL.

Orr's role,though, was never about pen and paper. Then and now, he has traveled widely to take in college and pro games, bundled golf rounds with contacts in coaching and broadcasting, used his stature to gain an entrée denied rival agents. He often showed up unannounced at the Maple Leafs' offices when Pat Quinn, his old sparring partner, was coach and general manager from 1998 to 2006. Quinn usually didn't deal with player reps, but he always welcomed Orr. Eventually talk would turn to a client like defenseman Tomas Kaberle, and Quinn says, Orr would "get to where he wanted to go. And it was always about the kid, abouthis best interest." When, during Kaberle's 2001 holdout, hockey analyst Gord Miller of The Sports Network in Canada took an on-air shot at Kaberle's defense, Orr got in Miller's face, stats at the ready, snapping, "You'd better rethink that!"

Orr's loyalty to the faithful is just as fierce. If he has refused to donate signed pictures or gear to a desperate fan, or refused a charity golf tournament or hospital visit, no one has heard of it. In 2006 a story ran in The Boston Globe about a high school hockey player, Bill Langan, who played in a regional title game on the day of his mother's wake; the kid mentioned that his mother used to watch Orr play. Orr called, asked if he could help. Langan asked him to come to a team dinner. Orr made no promises. But he showed up without warning and stayed an hour.

As for the big,bad—and now old—Bruins, Orr is, Sinden says, "still the Godfather."When the flamboyant and reckless Sanderson showed up in Chicago in the winter of '78 stoned and unable even to hold a cup of coffee steady, Orr personally checked him into a hospital and was there when Sanderson woke up with three doctors staring at him. "Who's going to tell him?" one said.

"I'll tell him," Orr said and then leveled with Sanderson: "You're a full-blown alcoholic and a drug addict. It's over. You've got to go to rehab." Orr paid for that first stint. When Sanderson relapsed, he says, Orr paid to send him back. And then again. "He never left me," Sanderson says.

When Sanderson finally cleaned up, and began a new life as a financial adviser for athletes in the 1990s, Orr invested with him, gave Sanderson the chance to work with Orr's clients too.

Orr also paid for rehab stints for former Bruins trainer John (Frosty) Forristall, his roommate during his first years with the Bruins and an irreverent bon vivant whose alcohol problems led Esposito, then the general manager of the Tampa BayLightning, to let him go in 1994. Forristall returned to Boston jobless, and soon after he was told he had brain cancer. Bobby and Peggy took Forristall into their home for a year until he died in '95 at 51.

"I'm glad somebody was there for him," says Frosty's older brother, Bill, fromFlorida. "He wouldn't come down here. I was a little too hard-nosed; I wouldn't put up with his drinking." Orr stood by Frosty to the end,hovering over him in the hospital, serving as a pallbearer at his funeral. But he wouldn't speak to Bill.

"Bobby wasn't too happy with me," Bill says. "John apparently said something that put me in a bad light. I've never been able to figure it out."

MAYBE IT was the fact that he'd just turned 60, or that two knee-replacement surgeries had freed him of cane and pain. Maybe he figured he could finally take the onslaught of memories without breaking. But on Nov. 27, Orr relented at last, stood on the ice at the General Motors Centre in Oshawa, Ont., and allowed the junior team he left in 1966 to retire his number.

Still, he could barely sleep for two nights before. Oshawa, after all, had known him all the way back in 1962 when Orr was raw, wide-open, 14 years old and missing his parents, Doug and Arva, up in Parry Sound. Oshawa was where Wren Blair, a G.M.in the Bruins system, planted him and where the Eagle got his hooks in.

But Arva died in2000 and Doug in '07, both in winter, and when Orr took the microphone that night, his voice quavered and his eyes filled. "I know my, uh, mom and dad are watching tonight," he said. "I know they're very, very happy ...very proud. My mom and dad were the perfect minor hockey parents. Their whole philosophy was, Look, go out and play, have fun, and let's see what happens.And I wish there were more parents that thought like that when it came to their kids playing hockey...." And the standing crowd cheered the dig at hockey parents gone wild, cheered how things used to be.

Yet as much as he doesn't like being called an agent—"He'd rather it be, 'family representative,'" Sinden says—that's what Orr is. He famously never put either of his sons on skates, but he has his oldest, Darren, 34, working forThe Orr Group in Boston. Bobby Orr is now part of the machinery of parents,media, teams and agents dedicated to finding the next Bobby Orr.

In January, Orr returned to Oshawa to coach against Cherry in the 2009 Top Prospects Game, the annual showcase for top junior talent. It was Orr's 10th appearance; he took part in the inaugural event in 1996 as a celebrity, but once he became a player rep, competing agents cried conflict of interest—he would, after all, be coaching a game designed to help determine draft order, salaries and the sizeof an agent's commission. Orr offered to withdraw. Organizers wouldn't hear of it.

As much as he DOESN'T LIKE TO BE CALLED AN AGENT,that's what he is—part of the machinery dedicated to finding the next Bobby Orr.

On the morning of this year's game Orr and his team of prospects posed for the traditional team photo. Afterward, the coaches and players scattered to the locker room, leaving their chairs and platforms and mess behind. Orr didn't say a word. He grabbed two chairs and skated them off the ice. Then he went back for a riser, bent over, and shoved it slowly to one end of the empty rink: wrong door. He wheeled and shoved it the length of the ice again, leaving it at the right one so the arena crew would have a bit less work.

The players returned after a few minutes and began circling the ice counterclockwise. Orr joined in, dipping into the flow and skating hard again, reversing time if only for a few laps. Cherry hadn't seen Orr on the ice pain-free in 35 years."Before, it was push and glide, really sad to see," he said. "Now? You would never know."

Orr gathered up a puck and wristed it low into the empty goal, making the net shiver. He stopped,began feeding all the young men as they swooped past, clockwise now: Foligno, Holland, de Haan, Tavares, O'Reilly. He tapped gloves with one, cracked a joke with another. Now Eakin, McNabb, Roussel flashed past, and now Schenn, and Orr motioned with his stick, and Schenn passed back the puck, maybe three inches wide. "Hey!" Orr snapped, and banged his stick on the ice to say, right here, and Schenn got closer with the next one. Orr gave him a grin.

He came off the ice later, and the press gathered and someone asked if he remembered what it felt like to be that young. He spoke about playing as a kid, outdoors mostly,shooting through the fierce cold on the Seguin River, on Georgian Bay,scrapping on icy parking lots. "No coaches, no parents," he said."Get the puck and just go.

"It was never a job for me. Even during my pro days, it was never, ever a job. That's what these kids have to understand: Just enjoy it, keep that love and passion for the game. I think what sometimes we do—we, the pressures, the coaches and parents—we just suck that love and passion from our kids. And I think that's wrong."

He and Cherry hada bet on the game, $100. That night Orr's side won 6--1, and Cherry gave it upat the handshake. "Money goes to money, you see that?" he said.

And then Orr,icon and agent and coach all in one, raised the bill over his head and waved it in triumph. Thousands roared. Thousands laughed. Their Bobby was back, no limp,and eyes shining. It felt perfect, the way any church does when the ceremony goes off without a hitch and the light streams just so.